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Something I need you to know…

If I may. None of you awesome people would be grooving on All These Quiet Places if Chris Krzeminski hadn’t written this book for us. That you, who’ve reached out to us, are able to respond in the manner that you have is a testament to that man’s outstanding ability to take you there through his writing. I know you guys have hit some rough spots while reading. It’s necessary, you must. You must submit, he commands it of you. He holds your hand while he sits with you in this mad, chaotic world of this messed up human being who only wanted to understand how to fix things. That’s Davi Ross. You care about her because you are her. And the only reason you’re feeling a sense of triumph and relief in an easy, soft way, knowing when all is said and done as she pours that fucking milk in her coffee, just stirring it and thanking fuck she owned up to her shit, in super chill fashion, no excuses, no more preventable harm will come to her, and she knows it… is because Krzeminski never let go of the reader’s hand. He stands back, just far enough so you think he’s out of reach. Just so you can really feel Davi’s horror as well as her bliss and everything in between. You’re not inspired by me, my friends. You got there because of Krzeminski’s skill. And I got that monkey off my back. A burden I never dared to ask for relief from. I thought I was fine and managing quite well, it’s true. I’ve been killing it out here for years now. I’m not sitting around asking for shit I didn’t earn. I’m beyond grateful I survived. There’s no way I’d waste any more time not loving each and every moment I’m inside of. I’ve wanted for nothing. I’m still delighted as hell most of the time but I must say I feel like I can rest easy now, like all the way. Krzeminski gave you what I never could but always wanted to. I wanted you to understand what I learned. I wanted to give you the joy that I feel which is specifically due to what I now understand. Krzeminski did that for me. He’s that good.

Thank you for your time,
Jennifer August

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How Not To Care What Anyone Thinks Of You

I noticed a tweet from someone that I happen to adore. She asked millions of us how is it that we can truly not care about what others think of us. At first, I just wanted to hug her because that’s what I do but then I thought, how did I finally accomplish that? I realized it had been a tough road loaded with disappointments and great discomfort. A path that I insisted on taking up having grown fatigued by it all. Tired of everyone’s two fucking cents about how I think, behave, or generally live my life.

Back then I had decided to carve way down to my very core to find out who I really was, how I truly saw the world, and what the fuck I wanted to do with the rest of my days here. This process is dense with rewards but I won’t lie, it takes real commitment, hardcore perseverance, and the willingness to not take yourself too seriously. The latter being necessary for when you bump into shit about yourself that you swore you would never change. And the coping methods that you believe help you through adversity will need honest analysis as well. You have to break your own balls, really. You’ve got to be willing to use your own harsh judgement on yourself. But the garbage you’ve accumulated in your head regarding others’ opinions of you, that you hold on to in order to continue abusing your self-worth… you need to drop that shit. Immediately.

Here’s why. No one knows you like you do. No one cares for you the way that you do. No one’s love can be as valuable to you as the love you know you need to have for yourself. And until you have it, you’re going to be chasing it. You’re going to look to anyone who gives you even a bit of attention for approval. It’s going to make you feel like shit sometimes. For a few of you, it’s going to feel like shit a lot of the time. Because you’re leaving it up to someone else to decide if you’re worthy of acceptance. Read that sentence again. Looks pretty meshuggeneh doesn’t it?

So work on you liking you. Find out what you like and don’t like. What you find acceptable and what you don’t. What you’re willing to tolerate from those in your intimate circle and what sorts of behaviors will end up with them on the outer most perimeter. Be okay with the changes in others as they respond to becoming acquainted with your alterations. With this level of focus you’re bound to change a few things.

You need to see that you and you alone are the person you trust most to take good care of you. There’s nothing that can compare with that understanding. You won’t be presenting with fear and insecurity because you’ll know, you got this. You’ll feel more like you’re sharing space and time with people. Less like a person who’s visiting everyone else’s lives.

So get in there and get dirty. Face your shame. Face your mistakes. Face your regrets. Be honest about it so you can clean that fucker out completely. Correct the things you can and forgive yourself for the things you can’t fix. You’d forgive someone you love wouldn’t you? That’s what I’m saying.

Then take that honesty and look at all the things you did with the best of intentions. Look at all the shit you overcame right up until this moment. The obstacles you figured your way through when you weren’t sure if you’d succeed. Make yourself look at all the good choices you’ve made. Reach back in your memory and see the faces of those who have smiled because of something you said or something you did. I’d bet you’ll say to yourself, oh look, an individual who does their best and fucks up sometimes. Welcome to being human.

Finally, you have got to get off the bizarre loop that constantly flashes mental pictures of how and why you don’t measure up. I ask you, who made the rules for what’s okay and what’s not?


That’s what I thought. So you see, there’s no logical reason to seek approval from others. On anything. Just be sure you’re truly okay with yourself. Keep yourself in check. Stay fulfilled and hungry. Set your bar high according to your own standards. Be cool to those you love and make sure they’re cool to you.
You know what to do.
Keep in mind, you started out liking yourself. We all did. Then we threw ourselves out into the world and somehow everyone else’s perspective became more valuable than our own.
What a load of horseshit that is.


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No Such Thing As Easy

For several months I have been hitting a wall of writer’s block that I would obviously prefer to be scaling. Finally, and thanks to a tweeter who had the courage to contact me, I can feel that wall starting to crumble. He said something that opened my mind to a route of thoughts which led me to realize that I wasn’t climbing high enough. He mentioned ‘casting his net’ to find his way toward a more complete recovery from past trauma. Although I’ve enjoyed an amazing recovery myself, I feel I can ‘cast my net’ much wider.

While working with Chris Krzeminski as he writes All These Quiet Places, I continue to find places in my mind that were previously unexplored. They certainly aren’t comfortable to visit but what worthwhile growth is?
I take the hits as they come and do my best to understand them so I can lay them to rest. Daunting to be sure, but absolutely necessary. The nagging tug of slanted perspectives is something I find more than annoying. It commands me to find a solution and ultimately a more accurate, healthier perspective.

I’ve been surprised at the things I never bothered to analyze yet I know this level of rigorous excavation isn’t common and I’m grateful to have these considerations brought to my attention. There’s no doubt in my mind that this had been pushing me into a lack of output due to all the internal work that’s been required. The only thing that really bothers me is the stranglehold this has had on my creativity, nevertheless I know it will eventually return to me.

The physical symptoms that have manifested are a true pain in the ass as nervousness, frequent activation of my gag reflex, and sleeplessness haunt me day in and day out. These are familiar although I haven’t experienced them in years. I’ve been very fortunate that way. Understanding them better this time around makes all the difference in how I cope and work to maintain my everyday activities alone or with others. This work belongs to me as does the responsibility of bringing myself to a new normal while I integrate all I’ve learned with all I had previously accumulated.

Today I feel less suffocation. Today I know I can trust myself to achieve a level of understanding that will benefit me and anyone who may get something from my future writings. There’s no such thing as easy and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I’d like to offer a big thank you to the tweeter who had the bravery to share his thoughts with me. I owe you one.


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All These Quiet Places

Here is the back cover blurb for the book project All These Quiet Places written by Christopher Krzeminski, based on actual events recounted by Jennifer August (that’s me).


Davi Ross was once an independent and strong-minded woman with a promising future awaiting her, and those prospects only seemed to improve after her marriage to the handsome and quiet Victor Wallace who doted on her lavishly with thoughtful attention. With several years of marriage behind them however, Davi lives in a much different future than she had expected. Now, Victor has convinced her to stop working and going to school, she finds herself groomed to accept regular and intense abuse at his hands, and she has lost touch with her closest friends and family. Isolated, exploited, and lost, Davi is holding onto the smallest shreds of her identity and coping with the ever-escalating toll of damage through a thick fog of prescription drugs, holding out hope that the woman she once knew still exists somewhere inside her. Based on actual events, All These Quiet Places tells the story of her determined emergence from madness through to her ultimate rebirth, but before she can complete that journey, she will need to reclaim the strength and confidence she had once prized so dearly, confront past demons, and fight to understand exactly how everything had gone so wrong.


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It’s Not Over Until You Walk Away

So you push through
And some days disappoint
Others are better.

What are you looking for?
Are you sure that’s what you want?
Or was that planted in your head
Long ago?

You best figure it out.
There never was a plan.
You imagine it, you create it,
You bring it to fruition.

No more excuses.
Being scared is irrelevant.
Everyone’s scared.
Toss your hat in the ring anyway.

Simply treading water
Keeps you in the game.
Disregard discomfort.
It’s of no consequence
And it will never go away.

Release from your mind
The harshest of all possible realities.
Stick with THE reality.
Work your gig from there.

It’s not over until you walk away.


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You Were Wrong

You thought that chipping away at me

Would remove my core.

You thought if you stole my beauty

I’d never be loved again.


You thought that scarring my skin

Would find its way to my heart.

You thought that stealing my sex

Would mean I was yours.


You thought that cutting me off from the world

Would make me lonely.

You thought holding me captive

Would mean I wasn’t free.


You thought beating me down

Would make it so I’d never leave.

You were so sure

But you were wrong.


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Choose Well

What will you choose

While your insecurities are fanned

Yet you have all you need

And the indulgence feels irresistable

Do you choose

To guard what you have built

Or is the lure of a hollow filled

Worth losing it all



What will you say

When you’ve chosen external satiation

And the heart you’ve trampled

Beats injured in your wake

Will you say

I’m sorry

And if you do

Will that be enough



How will you rectify

The mess that you made

The shame that you feel

The fraud that you’ve become

Choose well

Think often

Take the next right step

Be your model of excellence

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That’s What It Is

It’s the wound that bleeds the most

It’s the tears that fall with force

It’s the fear that pierces your gut

It’s the loss that kills something inside

It’s the days when nothing feels good

It’s the nightmares that leave you paralyzed

It’s the moments you wish you were invisible

And the moments that you are


It’s the glimpse of bright light

It’s the mundane sounds that make you smile

It’s the nod from a trusted friend

It’s the butterflies in your stomach

It’s the excitement for tomorrow

It’s the touch from one who loves you

It’s the split second of understanding

That turns into days of knowing


It’s the enthusiasm in your eyes

It’s the peace of self-acceptence

It’s the certainty of your path

It’s the comprehension that you lost nothing

It’s the true definition of forgiveness

It’s the release of all that has passed

It’s the day you came to own it

And the life you lived thereafter

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Alright, Motherfuckers…

I just have to sound off about this bullshit going on with some Atheist Tweeters telling other Atheist Tweeters how to run their twitter accounts. What they should and shouldn’t say, what politically correct words are allowed, and which ones have been altered so you have to jump the fuck over to this new word or term and then me and my precious, cunty friends won’t be offended. How about you go fuck yourselves? Can we make that happen, assholes? For crying in a bucket, shut the fuck up already.

Let people say what they want to say. Let them be who they are. Who are you to demand that another satisfy your emotional and psychological needs in cyber-fucking-space? Or really anywhere, for that matter. Get your shit worked out. All that mess inside that you don’t have the kischkas to confront. Lay your focus on getting real familiar with how life truly is. It’s not going to work out well for you if you need everyone else to behave in a certain way so you can rest easy. Grow the fuck up.

Now for those of you who feel intimidated by certain tweeters and can sense yourself being influenced by their demands on how to tweet, I say fuck those tweeters. They’re not better than you. You created a twitter account so you could have a place to learn, hangout, enjoy some friendships, but ultimately to show us who you are and what you think. Please stay on that track. I so look forward to growing with you. As much as I enjoy giving a good beatdown, I can’t defend or assist everyone and I don’t want to. I’d like to see you strengthen your Atheist Twitter muscles by trial and error. It’s the only way to do it. There are so many supportive people around you so go ahead and risk it.

And as for the ridiculous arguments over who should eat what and who should exercise what constitutional right… are you fucking kidding me? If you have a good argument for something just fucking tweet about it. Let the agreement and disagreement come naturally. Why would you get into someone’s face about such private and personal choices? It’s fucking absurd. Everyone just calm the fuck down already. Tweet your shit, develop your gig, allow for discourse, and stop pushing each other around about really intimate and personal shit. That’s so bizarre to me.

I find that most of those I follow have a similar perspective on this hideous phenomenon. I truly appreciate that. If you’re one of the few that doesn’t, please adjust yourself or take your ass off my TL. I’d like to see enough room here for everyone. Don’t intentionally poke at another and claim that you are standing up for the rights of this or that group or cause. You’re fucking poking because you can do so easily behind your keyboard. You look like a jackass.


That’s all I have for you at this point. Now get back out there.

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Even If You Show Me Yours

I guard fiercely my right to physical privacy.

I’m okay with what you do, try to be okay with what I don’t do. 

Assumptions lead to horseshittery.

Physical intimacy is precious to me.

I don’t share it easily.

When I do, it’s spectacular.

I’m not cold or scared.

I’m warm and giving.

My choices are quite deliberate.

I don’t judge your choices.

I applaud them.

I expect the same in return.


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