Knowing I just had to get away to gain some much needed insight that I felt was just out of my reach, I made my way to the beach to spend a week with my love, Seamus Ryan Sheridan. A love that I had finally permitted myself to feel.
Monthly Archives: September 2013
These last two weeks on twitter have been quite a mixed bag. Writing about the shitty parts brings me much needed relief. So I shall begin. Buckle the fuck up, bitches.
Up until last Friday when I was given the amazing opportunity to sit in on a podcast with Deborah, @stefanelli, @Becky_Garrison, @EllenBethWachs and @mattfacciani on the @GodDiscussion Freethought Fridays Show, I was feeling that I had finally succeeded in getting beyond the irritation I felt with RadFems, Atheism Plus and @The_Block_Bot. Hearing what these truly awesome free-thinkers had experienced, my desire to expose blatant horsehittery was reignited. I promoted the recording of that show and felt heartened by all the positive feedback that we received from the twitterverse. The individuals offering this feedback were people who I and many others consider to be intelligent, independent folks with a penchant for debate badassery, their supporters and beneficiaries. As long as there are people who promote exclusiveness there will be more folks who push the off-limits barricade right the fuck over. Creativity along with skill and precision, while resourcing all of their knowledge, comes rather easy for those that hunger for true equality. These people are a constant source of inspiration to me and countless others.
While on the show I learned of the relentless harassment my fellow panelists have endured online. At least three of us had been brutally attacked in real life and survived. And I mean truly triumphed over our attackers, living to tell the tale and hopefully being able to offer others a new perspective on what it means to reset your life to your own specifications, and move on. Not wearing the label of survivor every damn day mind you, but being content to use only our given names as our identifiers. These names hold within them many facets but no one facet tells our entire story. That’s integrity, that’s true empowerment. How any of these individuals could be accused of rape apology or misogyny leaves me not only astounded but also re-inspired to hold up my spotlight and shine it right on the hypocrisy that is RadFeminism.
Sure I was born with an amazing vagina and eventually developed an adorable little rack, I was also born straight. Who the fuck cares? I certainly don’t. I lack the need to know what you were born with or without as well. It simply doesn’t come into my realm of consideration when addressing whether or not you deserve equality. Your preferences, your persuasions, your genitals (new or used), your disorders, your abilities or disabilities, even your personal history doesn’t amount to a hill of beans in my perspective. It’s the mere fact that you’re human that offers you a seat at the table reserved for those I will fight for. So check your perceived privilege, my RadFem friends, before you decide to get up in my face or anyone else’s and tell me or them who is and who isn’t allowed to walk beside you and work for true equality.
Naturally, due to the fact that I’m alive for fuck’s sake, I’m aware that some groups of people have suffered the consequences of an extremely focused form of abuse more so than others. If it works for you to keep a particular group of mistreated individuals at the top of your docket then have at it. But to convince yourself that your inclination toward defending the rights of only that group and its subgroups means that you’re the only one fighting the good fight is not only absurd, it’s downright ignorant. There are many people suffering out there and each person is entitled to equal treatment by our global society. By all means, keep moving forward with your cause, just don’t lose sight of the reality that not only are many others in your corner, there are many other movements happening simultaneously. That’s a good thing. That’s how tipping points are reached and what brings about the shift in perspective needed to allow for a world where all are afforded the same opportunities. That’s the fucking goal. I in no way think I’ll live to see the day where we reach that utopia although I’ll continue to offer the most substantial contribution I possibly can. If while I’m busy making my contribution you feel it necessary to point out what I’m doing wrong in the way that I speak or the issues I choose to address, you’re going on blast. I rather enjoy that activity so you’re welcome to bring it. I’ll have tissues on hand for your tears and fresh underwear as well. You’ll need these items for when I’m done exposing your real agenda which is to appear as though you’re in the fight for equality but really you’re looking for a shitload of ‘atta boys’ and some vulnerable people to prey on. I look forward to seeing you in the ring.
While that’s going on, folks like @AtheistMel, @SecularBloke, @Atheist_Alabama, @JohnTheSecular, @KelsTheSecular, @fieryskulldiary, @SecuLawyer, @RegCarolMoore, @AtheistMummy, @francosoup, @SlagOffTwits, @Lenn_Len, @HalfEatenCrayon, @Liberty_2112, @cartridge_uk, @philositect, @Nostradamnisuck, @IRaiseUFacts, @danarel, @GRIMACHU, @danabrahmsen, @mcbroomifer, @sherriwright78, @TheAtheistSpark, @Moq72, @Martymad0001, @lillai23, the always awesome @SecularDad as well as @DenverAtheist and many, many others will be plowing through bullshit like they so often do. For the accounts who weren’t mentioned here but have no problem speaking truth, I left you out because 1) I know you would prefer it for a number of reasons or 2) you’re busy pushing for change on another important front or 3) I am not able to access my most recent memory of your awesome and worthy contribution to egalitarianism. If you want me to add you to or remove you from this list, please let me know.
In conclusion to what is likely to be my last post regarding #counterfeitfeminists, as there are many other topics I can hold in my head and speak about, I want you all to know I have long since arrived at a place where speaking out comes as easy to me as breathing. As long as there are instances of inequality developing before my eyes I will not hesitate to confront them. Including the instances that are caused by the disruptive machine that is group-think. It will serve you and I well if you would take a look at your behavior and decide if you are practicing exclusion. Should you find that indeed you are, know that you’re on the wrong side of your very own cause. Then for crying out loud, make the necessary changes so we can all get back to doing what we do best as cohabitants of this planet which is making our own lives and the lives of others the best they can possibly be.
For more on how #ActualHumans see the cause of feminism check my post titled Feminism:The Hard Way.
If you should have any questions or comments you are welcome to leave them here or tweet me @jen_august.
See you on the top side.
My atypical mind
Serves as your food
You binge freely
Sucking out every last morsel
Leaving nothing for me.
I cry before I hit empty
Please, please save some for me
You pay no mind
And push beyond my reservoir
There’s not one drop left.
While I hang
By a fragile cord
You watch me sway
And poke around for more
My wound releases its final tear.
You stand there perplexed
How can it be
I was always so nurturing
Now I’m useless
Now I’m a taker.
I drag my shell
To a place where it can sleep
You follow me there
And peek inside
Calling for more.
I beg you
To let me be
You cry rejection
I can only hear my own voice say
It’s almost that time